Seek out the REAL problem underneath your habit while eradicating your bad habits as well.
Obviously the case with habits are rather simple. A habit is a ritual in which we perform most often externally as a result of an emotional problem we are suffering from internally.
You should start to think of your bad habit as a clue or friend who’s trying to tell you or help you cope with another problem that you probably are not aware of—such as anxiousness over a situation. If you suffer from a bad habit you are probably suffering from an emotional moment that leads you to act out your bad habit in which to cope.
It is no wonder the majority of us have at least one bad habit. It is now the norm to find most of us living unhappy existences, being forced under stressful circumstances day after day and settling for it.
We are literally beginning to unravel at this seams and it’s starting to show.
Bad habits are only another arrow pointing to most of us unfolding under this pressure of an abnormal society with a bad approach toward the goal of happiness.
With many of us bad habits are not only a sign that our emotions are unbalanced in some way but perhaps also our lives.
It may be time to evaluate your life along with your bad habit. What about your life is leading you to this anxiousness? Is it just a situation or your life in its entirety?
Bad habits can be cured, but it’s the underlying problem that is also essential if not more.
Sometimes it’s not only certain circumstances that lead to bad habits… but one’s entire life.
Just as we are always told to be careful about what friends we choose we should use the same formula for our surroundings, jobs, etc.
It’s important to ask yourself if these things are toxic or healthy to you. All it requires are two questions concerning each choice you make in life…
- Is it medicine?
- Or is it poison? To me?
And then stop settling for poison when you need medicine. There are situations in which we have no choice, and that’s to be understood. But they should only be allowed to be temporary and not made into something we settle for on a more permanent basis.
Look at these situations as a bridge and not as a landmark.
It’s time to get back to the basics like a child would. Do something that only makes you happy. Kids don’t mess with things that make them unhappy. They give a simple yes or no to it. And if it’s no that’s where that thing in their life stands.
If they don’t like playing with dolls… they don’t play with them.
Put your approach toward life back in it’s place. And it’s true, most likely you won’t find the world agreeing with you because the majority of the world is convinced a backwards approach is good for you and them. Because it produces results that “look” good on the surface.
It’s a typical thing nowadays to see that we think the wrong thing is right for us and the right thing is wrong for us these days.
In which we view the good thing as bad and the bad thing as good.
Bad habits are not bad… not really…
in the end you’ll find them to be good friends that often tell us that some things aren’t doing us any good. Or that something is making us feel terribly bad.
You can start breaking a bad habit with The Habit Buster. It’s a quick little chapbook under 20 pages that helps you get started on breaking your habit right away.
Or try a more thorough approach to break a bad habit that is equally effective if not more… The Habit Change Workbook: How to Break Bad Habits and Form Good Ones, but your habit isn’t the real problem… other things in your life that lead you to this approach toward coping evidently need to be fixed as well.
In life we neglect what we need and compensate it with something that’s less satisfying because it feels safer. Allowing this approach toward life to become a habit can lead to a plate full of regrets. The key is to stop feeding yourself carrots when you want carrot cake. If you don’t, your hunger and thirst will never be fully quenched.